Wednesday, February 15, 2006

Another death

I'm going to get to put all my delightful ideas about memorial service planning from yesterday to good use.

My Grandmother, the ChaliceMom's mother, died yesterday afternoon. She was in her nineties, it's just one of those things. I wrote this about a night I spent in the hospital with her. She was my last living grandparent, and the one I knew best, which is not to say that I knew her especially well.

This death is much more complicated for me. She was difficult when I was a kid and grew increasingly so as she got older. Losing my grandmother has made me appreciate how easy to eulogize Margaret will be, Margaret never having hit me with a belt.

I looked at two bookstores for a book on funeral planning. While each bookstore had several dozen wedding planning books, there wasn't much to be found on planning a funeral. Found some OK stuff on the internet, though.

My valentines day was pretty much ruined, which wasn't a terribly big deal. It helped a little to imagine my Grandmother reunited with my Grandfather at the big USO dance in the sky.



Peregrinato said...

I'm catching up on my blogs. I'm truly sorry for both of your losses, including your grandmother with your complicated relationship. Sometimes death doesn't really even resolve that complication; it simply ends complicated.

If you have time and want to learn about funeral planning, you might want to visit Wesley Seminary's Cokesbury Bookstore. It has a few generic funeral service books you might want to flip through.

PeaceBang said...

I'm so sorry, CC. And I should think that your minister would have a copy of Ed Searle's very helpful book on planning memorial services in his/her study, and perhaps even the new book of funeral readings.

P.S. I love that I can actually read your blog without going blind, and without re-sizing it big and then small in order to scroll down.


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C. Arenas, FNP-BC said...

So sorry CC. Death of a family member that screws us up is so incredibly complicated. Hang in there. Time is a beautiful healer. If you need an ear you know where to find me.


Chalicechick said...

Thanks, guys. The support I've gotten from my friends has been really spiff.