Depressing news of the day

Knocking over a dictator: At least arguably a good thing, though American troops dying always sucks.

Knocking over a dictatot, letting the people write a new constitution: Sounds great!

Knocking over a dictator, letting the people write a constitution that doesn't let the government tread on religion: Well, wouldn't be my preferance, but, hey, if that's what the people want...

Knocking over a dictator, letting the people write a constitution that doesn't let the government tread on religion, so Shiite women now can't get married without their families permission, husbands can divorce their wives by telling them "I divorce you" three times and basically all the civil rights Iraq gave women in the fifties that Saddam let them keep just might be revoked: Sigh. I did TRY to like this war.

Seriously, I am confused as to where we should proceed from here. My thinking is approximately:

Strong-Arming the Iraqis into putting stuff they don't want into their constitution: Sucks.
Letting them get away with putting women's rights several decades back: Also sucks.
Not having gotten ourselves into this mess or gone about it a very different way: Probably right, but not an option at this point.

Any other ideas?

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