tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9864334.post113767683239956796..comments2023-10-24T05:49:04.269-04:00Comments on The Chaliceblog: Gah, parental notification laws are so irrationalChalicechickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07781469958573869914noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9864334.post-1137748373600410282006-01-20T04:12:00.000-05:002006-01-20T04:12:00.000-05:00I would be interested to know if there are any sta...I would be interested to know if there are any statistics about mental, emotional and medical health issues (if any) following underage girls' abortions. <BR/><BR/>I grew up very religious and I don't know that I would have told my parents if I had ever somehow managed to become pregnant. Not because my parents are abusive or I was fearful of them; I would not have wanted to disappoint them. <BR/><BR/>These girls who went to court - were they represented by lawyers? Were they anonymous? I wonder what it takes to engage in these proceedings? <BR/><BR/>I have mixed feelings on the issue. I feel like we're not asking the right questions here, and so none of the answers really take care of us.LaReinaCobrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13554970165949410961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9864334.post-1137730833748591272006-01-19T23:20:00.000-05:002006-01-19T23:20:00.000-05:00I know that I went to my parents -- though I was s...I know that I went to my parents -- though I was scared to tell my mother and told my father instead. First, though, I made arrangements for the abortion. It had been legal for two or three months at that time. <BR/>It's not major surgery -- it's a "D&C" -- a dilation and currettage. Minor surgery.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9864334.post-1137693730668906012006-01-19T13:02:00.000-05:002006-01-19T13:02:00.000-05:00Would you have been willing to face a judge to get...Would you have been willing to face a judge to get a judicial bypass?<BR/><BR/>Even if I had feared abuse, I almost wonder if a 14-year-old me would have feared that more.<BR/><BR/>While I trust you, HF, to know your own mind, I don't know that the kids at Hugo Schwyer's church know quite what they would do in a situation they haven't been in. <BR/><BR/>I haven't had one myself, but my understanding is that abortion is fairly significant surgery. I might not have wanted my Dad to find out, but though my mom isn't the most supportive creature in the world, what support she had to give, I would have needed.<BR/><BR/>But if you asked me in front of my friends, I would have assured you that I could handle things on my own. <BR/><BR/>CCChalicechickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07781469958573869914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9864334.post-1137692760774818162006-01-19T12:46:00.000-05:002006-01-19T12:46:00.000-05:00I have a visceral dislike for parental notificatio...I have a visceral dislike for parental notification laws. But I am going to contradict your belief that teenagers only want to avoid telling parents if they fear abuse. Hugo Schwyzer has noted that in the youth group at his very liberal church, most of the kids really balked at the notion of sharing this kind of decision with their parents.<BR/><BR/>As a teenager, I most certainly would not have told my parents that I was pregnant and opting for abortion if I could at all avoid it. I wouldn't have been afraid of abuse, but I would have felt very strongly that it was a private decision and I wouldn't have wanted my parents to pressure me in any way to make a different decision. Parents have all sorts of ways to control the outcome of an abortion decision. I personally would be pretty bitter if my parents had made a decision for me that would affect the rest of my life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9864334.post-1137689345469789732006-01-19T11:49:00.000-05:002006-01-19T11:49:00.000-05:00My guess is that if a judge lets a girl have an ab...My guess is that if a judge lets a girl have an abortion without telling her parents, said judge has decided that the girl has a reason for wanting to do so. <BR/><BR/>Again, I didn't get along with my folks in high school and I'm certain I would have told them. <BR/><BR/>My guess is that any girl who wouldn't is afraid of getting abused or kicked out of the house. <BR/><BR/>CCChalicechickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07781469958573869914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9864334.post-1137683334703418842006-01-19T10:08:00.000-05:002006-01-19T10:08:00.000-05:00I've representive girls in judicial bypass proceed...I've representive girls in judicial bypass proceedings and they generally havent been a problem.<BR/><BR/>I guess my feeling is the generally I would prefer a girl to talk with and get her information from her parents instead of her best friend. I am not very confident in another 13 yr old to provide non-emotional, reasoned advice. Moreover, from the provider perspective, it is nice to have the family on board.<BR/><BR/>On whole, I am more concerned about her making an informed, intelligent decision, than I am about insuring that she gets an abortion. For the most part, the result is the same.Willhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11828593974447279750noreply@blogger.com